Comments:

Bluey - 2010-04-20 13:02:49
I'm sorry, Fifi. I feel your frustration. It is well justified. XO
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Poolie - 2010-04-20 14:20:47
You have every reason to be upset. People who upstage others are attention whores. I am so sorry you have to make a choice like this.
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Anna - 2010-04-20 15:14:36
She may need a bit of a smack in the mouth at some point, your SIL. Not that I advocate violence, you understand, but sometimes, grrrr. xoxo
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annesurly - 2010-04-20 15:56:04
I <3 your wisdom and comments. Isn't family just the shits?
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swimmmy - 2010-04-20 16:10:36
After reading both entries, I think you had it exactly right in the second entry. I also feel your frustration. I could give you advice, but there is what you want to do and what you feel you have to do, i.e., the art of compromise, and you seem to have a pretty good handle on that. Not happily, of course. Know that I agree with you completely and while this really sucks at this moment, I'm betting you will figure out a way to express your appropriate displeasure to SIL while still maintaining your Fifi-esque grace and integrity. And getting a secret anniversary party on YOUR terms. You go, girl!! XOXO
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swimmmy - 2010-04-20 16:14:33
And yeah, if there was a single biggest reason why I'm not currently married, this type of thing would be close to being it. I'm normally good at compromise, but yes, there are limits... XOXO
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MFV - 2010-04-20 16:16:48
Gosh. Er, wow. Well, they say you can't choose your relatives. Of course, when it comes to in-laws, but it would be a shame to judge people by the people THEY can't choose. I, too, have some odd in-laws... but Victoria and I are able to exchange a quiet smirk at how f'ed up they are, and it makes our obligations bearable. And those obligations and times when you have to bite your tongue need not detract from what you have with Ned. Yes, marriage involves more than one person - and therefore includes an element of compromise - but it involves no more than two people. Anybody else who thinks they can come between you and your spouse shouldn't be surprised if you both cheerfully tell them to go to hell. Talk to Ned some more... it's going to be OK. MFVx
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Ana - 2010-04-20 23:11:43
Patience, my sweet. She's a very fangs-displaying attention-whore. But don't worry, it is normal to vent all you need. Picking out your day. The nerve of that tipa! Unbelievable! Hang in there, sweetheart. Don't let her disturb the peace at your beautiful home. Though it'd take a SAINT to achieve that. ((HUGS))
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