Comments:

Ana - 2008-09-05 01:29:51
I don't know what kind of relationship you have with the house sitter, but I'd be angry, too. I don't think you're being harsh. My advice is, let her know how you feel about what she did, and then see if she can give an explanation. Though I don't think it'll be a good one, it's the civilized thing to do. You don't have to stand for her lies in the future, though. :) Xoxoxo!
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boxx9000 - 2008-09-05 02:39:42
I HATE confrontations so I'd probably just write this person off and never have contact with her again. However, the *proper* thing to do would be to call her on being a GIGANTIC flake and let her know how you had depended on her and she let you down. P.S. What grade is Biba in?
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swimmmy - 2008-09-05 04:39:11
You trusted her to take care of your house. I don't know exactly what you had expected her to do, but it is your house and that implies that a serious degree of trust involved, i.e., more than a casual relationship, which she totally blew off. Unacceptable. The way I see it, you have 2, maybe 3 options. First, explain why you're pissed. Let her explain, if she can. Vent, if you have to, but get it out in the open and then finish it. For good. Second, walk away and don't let her try and make excuses. Third, forgive her, but never trust her or put her in position to let you down ever again. Personally, I like to argue and vent and get to the bottom of things, so I'd go with #1, but part of that depends on how close a friend she was. I'm patient, but I'm increasingly able to sever ties when I've been wronged, and she definitely owes you an explanation. It's up to you to decide where you go from there. Oh, Fifi? That's a beautiful picture! I hope you have more that you can share with us! :)
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lumenatrix - 2008-09-05 07:31:22
Dude, fifi, I'd be completely pissed at this flaky person, you are not overreacting in the least. You didn't say if she was responsible for Spot as well as the house or just the house, but either way that was a complete breach of trust and not acceptable in any way. If she put Spot in danger in any way by ignoring him that just makes it that much worse. She also must have balls of solid brass to show up to return your key and act like nothing was wrong. As swimmmy said, I would call her out on it. There's no need to yell or anything, but she needs to know in no uncertain terms that that was not OK, regardless of the reason. Also,from here on out she's made it pretty clear that you can't trust her further than you can throw her, so that's how she's to be treated. Also, I'm glad biba enjoys school. Yay school!
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MFV - 2008-09-05 07:33:18
I think you should slap her like a bad, bad donkey, okay? (I'm not sure quite how severe that is, but it's something Pepe the King Prawn says in Muppets from Space, and he's my hero.)
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Anna - 2008-09-05 09:47:58
I think she needs to be given a good talking to, explaining exactly why you're (justifiably) pissed off with her. However, I am a total wuss and would probably just carry on as before, but never really trust her again. In about five years time I'd ask her what happened. That's not true - I'm still building up to asking Dot why she didn't invite me to her wedding in 1983. Love and hugs xxx
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Fifi - 2008-09-05 10:44:55
You guys are awesome! I like the donkey slapping option, but since I have to always keep my temper under the strictest of control, I'll just have to dream that I did that. I just feel disgust, moving toward indifference. I was angry for about 6 or 7 hours, but that does no real good...Also, I wonder, if I demanded an explanation, would I get passive-aggressive bullshit in response? Thank GOD that Spot was at the Spa. The dog spa, not the people spa. ( I get that tomorrow.) BTW, those birds are Gannets, and that is their breeding ground at Cape St. Mary's in NL. The rocks are near to one another, but separated by huge drops down to the sea. It was an amazing thing to see!
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Bluey - 2008-09-05 12:37:27
Fifi, I would totally confront her and tell her that you were 1) worried about her; 2) happy that she is OK; 3) really disappointed in her lack of courtesy. I would just say it all and say that, as a result, not to mention the fact that she hasn't addressed the issue, you don't see her as a friend. Honestly, I think it's important to speak the truth, but kindly. As of course you will do. I would do it for you, if I were there. :) Just kidding. You have to do what you have to do, but I think you have to clear your head/heart with this one. As for the rest...do take enough time for yourself to feel centred and relaxed. :)
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Bluey - 2008-09-05 12:48:05
PS, Fifi, that's terrific about Biba!!!
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